Marriages are not made in heaven. They take a lot of hard work and commitment from both spouses to be truly successful. In this article I will be discussing and pinpointing the 3x signs that can wreck a marriage if not addressed and dealt with properly.
Adultery often feels like the ultimate betrayal. Whatever excuses your partner might come up with to justify his behavior; the truth is that people in healthy marriages do not cheat. Infidelity is often a warning sign of something extremely wrong between the spouses.
When a third person enters into a relationship, the ensuing lies and deceits wrecks havoc in the marriage; it breaks the trust between the spouses and the aftermaths can be felt long after the affair has ended.
2) Constant Quarreling
In any couples, regardless of how well the spouses get on; there will always be differences of opinion and occasional confrontations. This is absolutely normal and actually necessary to maintaining a healthy balance between the spouses. The problem arises when the amount of rowing, fighting, and bickering is grossly disproportionate compared to the happy times spent together.
Unfortunately, some couples fall into a destructive pattern of fighting over the slightest thing (this could be something as trivial as whose turn it is to take out the trash). This becomes their only way to communicate with each over, and in turn the constant fighting creates a negative environment which slowly suffocates and ultimately destroys their marriage.
Marriage is a partnership where two people agree to share emotional and economical responsibilities for one another. Selfishness is a serious relationship killer and strict individualism has no place in a good marriage.
If one of the spouses sees himself as a single entity, puts his own personal concerns above his partner’s needs and focus solely on what is beneficial to him and not for the good of the marriage, the relationship will suffer terribly and in time will disintegrate. The classic mistakes that couples make are:
- prioritizing their own social life with their friends over spending time as a couple
- spending the household budget as they please without consulting their spouse
- leaving the bulk of the housework duties/child care to their spouse in order to pursue their own interests
- focusing too much on advancing their individual careers,
- lack of consideration and efforts towards their spouse in areas such as sex, communication or affection
Conclusion: For spouses to grow as a couple, they both need to be committed to work at their relationship. There are some noticeable signs which will slowly wreck a marriage. If the marriage is to prosper these signs shouldn’t be ignored or brushed under the carpet but dealt with and resolved by both partners.