All marriages go through their ups and downs. Unfortunately, when the rough periods outweigh the happy times the marriage can quickly become unbearable. As a result you might end up feeling stuck in your marriage but are paralyzed by fear and anxiety over what to do. But doing nothing is the worst thing you can do. You need to take positive action to remedy the problems and get your marriage back on track
In this article I will be discussing 3 key elements which will help you to get your marriage back on the straight and narrow.
1. Improve communication in your marriage.
You need to identify your marriage issues and pinpoint the areas of conflicts. If it helps, write them all down on a piece of paper first and then go through them with your spouse. You both need to have a frank and honest discussion about what upsets you in the marriage.
This should be a positive discussion, so don’t start throwing accusations at each other. Talking with anger and resentment will sabotage your efforts and stifle your progress.
Start splitting the issues into small pieces and tackle them one at a time. No subject should be out of bounds: sensitive topics like money, sex, housework, or disciplining the kids are often at the forefront of many couple’s marital problems.
Once you have pinpointed the problems, you need to set the ground rules and create an active plan of action on how you are going to reduce the conflict in your marriage, manage your problems and set the tone for a much more peaceful life together.
2) Kill the tension
Stop holding grudges. Once you’ve tackled the problem areas and decided on a plan of action you need to take the gloves off and start working on making the marriage better. This often means letting go of your negative feelings and learning how to be more positive towards your partner.
Constant tension in a marriage creates an unhealthy atmosphere full of hostility, resentment and bitterness which tears a couple apart. It might mean that you both need to forgive each other for things done in the past, but removing the tension will dramatically improve your marriage and will give you a much better chance to be happy again.
3) Make time for your couple
Sometimes, with a hectic schedule of work and childcare, the couple’s basic needs can become too easily forgotten.
If you are both busy with your careers during the week and then try to cram everything else at week-ends, it leaves you no time to nurture your relationship with your spouse.
In a healthy relationship, couples take time to show affection to each other and express their love for one another.
To help you grow together as a couple, you should try and make a date night at least once a week. This is a time to enjoy each other’s company, reconnect with your partner and satisfy your needs for sexual intimacy.
Conclusion: Marriage is about giving and taking. To get your marriage back on track requires efforts and commitments from both spouses. You need to take care of your couple and make time to nurture your relationship with your spouse.
Ultimately to move into a new happier future together you need to make your marriage your top priority.