If your partner is not a “closet gay” or your appearance has not drastically changed due to obesity or extensive cosmetic surgery, then you might be wondering why your spouse has lost all interest in having sex. In this article I will be discussing the main reasons.
Although not the foundation of a marriage, sex is nevertheless one of its key components. A regular sex life helps to hold a marriage together and satisfies a couple’s need for physical intimacy.
I strongly believe that a marriage without sex is merely a friendship, albeit a close one. Although there might still be cuddles and hugs, in the absence of sex, partners progressively feel more like roommates or siblings. In most cases, only one spouse refuses to have sex. This leaves the other spouse feeling rejected and unfulfilled; and in turn the yearning for physical attention becomes even greater.
1. An affair
“My partner doesn’t want sex anymore”
As painful as it might be to come to terms with this, if your partner is getting sex elsewhere on a regular basis, he/she will find it more difficult to also have sex with you. This is very dangerous territory: not only their physically needs are fulfilled by another person, but in many cases an emotional connection can develop out of sex. The spouse having the affair can easily become entangled both sexually and emotionally. This in turn will leave unable to connect with you on both fronts.
2. Health reasons
Many times the lack or absence of sex is due to a medical condition. One of the most common reasons for men is erectile dysfunction. Also known as impotence, this is when a man is unable to sustain an erection.
The following conditions are also known to affect sexual functions:
- Heart and vascular disease
- Neurological disorders
- Hormonal imbalances (in particular low Testosterone levels)
- Chronic illnesses such as kidney or liver failure
- Alcoholism/drug abuse
Additionally, the side effects of some medications like antidepressant drugs have an adverse effect on sexual desire and function.
Although it might seem obvious, but if you are constantly tired or suffer from sleep deprivation you certainly won’t be in the mood for sex!
3) Sex used as a weapon
Sometimes a spouse refuses to have sex as a punishment for what is going wrong in the relationship. Refraining from sex is used as a weapon for expressing their discontent. If you are feeling disrespected, frustrated or even abused, having sex will be the last thing on your mind! The area of contention must be fixed first!
Keeping each other sexually satisfied is important to a good relationship. It helps a couple to keep connected and emotionally well-balanced. People don’t just stop wanting to have sex; there are much deeper underlying reasons. If there is still affection in the marriage, the sexual problems can be fixed. Both spouse need to refocus their attention on each other and work together at finding a solution.